Wednesday, November 03, 2010

Whining can be fun! & So can listening to it!

Next time you catch a regular complainer in the act -- even yourself -- try this great technique:
  1. Set a timer (most cell phones have them) for 2 minutes. - This limits the amount of time for the whining to something you actually have time for.
  2. Complain for a solid 2 minutes. The catch is that the only word you can us is "blah"
Frustrated? Blah BLAH blah blah blaaaaaah blahblah blah blah blah.

Annoyed? BLAH BLAH blah BLAH blah blah BLAH!


And go on for 2 minutes. Run out of rant on one subject? Switch to another: blah blah blahblah blah!

If you're listening, then respond as you usually would -- but again, only using the word, "blah": a soft blah blah blahblah.

You'll be amazed at what happens! I don't want to tell you, because I want you to try this for yourself, but there were 2 main reactions in the group of 40 or so people with whom I learned this, and both were good. Try it, post a comment here, or send me an email, and I'll let you know how you compare to the group.

[Big thanks to Suzi Smith, who taught this technique at last weekend's NLP conference.]

1 comment:

Hollis Polk said...

The main two reactions were:

- I feel so ridiculous for even thinking of this as a problem; I can't hold on to the problem; it's actually funny! or

- Without words, I got in touch with the primal nature of this issue for me. It's deep, it's huge, it comes from when I was very young, maybe even pre-verbal.

The moral of the story is that your 'story' is getting in the way of true healing either way.